Hi, my name’s Caroline and I am a Beebies Baby Store
ambassador as well as a blogger over at Cakes, Corks and Kids. I recently ‘came out’ about trying to
conceive (you can read the initial post here)
and the lovely Ami from Beebies asked if I would write a monthly column about
our experiences on this seemingly never ending journey. I jumped at the chance
and so here goes nothing….
We’re entering our seventh cycle now and officially in the
minority. In general, a fertile couple has a good chance of getting pregnant
within a year, as out of 100 couples TTC (trying to conceive) naturally:
• 20 will conceive within one month
•70 will conceive within six months
•85 will conceive within one year
•90 will conceive within 18 months
•95 will conceive within two years
I know they’re just stats and making a baby should be a joy
but it’s that feeling of being left on the shelf, being the last one chosen in
PE and wondering am I actually good
enough? Is my body still capable?
What am I doing wrong? Not a day
goes by where I don’t ponder all these thoughts and it gets tiresome and it
gets boring, not just for me but for my husband too.
I read online about secondary infertility, and although this
would be my third child, the principles the same. You’ve had one or two kids,
fell pregnant quickly and easily and now you’re struggling. Apparently it’s
more common than not being able to conceive at all, I’m guessing that’s because
second, third, fourth children come along as we get older and therefore our
fertility starts to decline naturally. But I’m only 30, and my partner is
36. We know of many, many couples that
have had kids well into their 30’s and 40’s so I’m kind of reluctant to believe
our age is the problem but as the months pass I just imagine all these little
sperm getting old, wrinkly and dying.
A good friend of ours, who recently had a beautiful rainbow
baby, recommended a reproductive reflexologist.
I looked her up and loved the sound of it and what she might be able to
tell me about my body and my cycle. I
think next month I might book in. Have
any of you used a reflexologist during TTC and found it to be beneficial?
We’ve changed a number of things over the last few weeks in
terms of ‘trying’, firstly we changed….well you know, how we do it. I’ve also
changed the pre-natal vitamin I take, I used to use Seven Seas and I’ve now
switched to Pregnacare. We’ve used Conceive Plus Gel a couple of times so I’m
living in hope that we might get the right combination and make ourselves the
perfect storm so to speak. I need to
bear in mind that there are a long list of things which need to happen in order
to conceive – hitting the nail on the head is quite a feat when you actually
think about it. Finally, we’ve made a
few decisions at home that have made me 100% happier but I’ll be blogging about
all that over on my own blog this Friday.
So, here we go again!
So, here we go again!
